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such a nasty woman | by maryann johanson

How Do You Know (review)

If You Have to Ask…

How do you know what? If you’re an idiot? If you have to ask…

I’d really like to give writer-director James L. Brooks the benefit of the doubt here, because I think — as I usually don’t about asinine romantic comedies — that he means well. I think he thinks he’s doing modern womanhood a solid with his creation of Lisa Jorgenson, professional athlete, who finds herself at a romantic crossroads just as her career is falling apart. Anyone in such a situation can be indecisive and unsure of herself, but Lisa clearly has made no plans for life after sports, not even to give it the most cursory of thoughts, even though she admits she knows the professional athlete’s calling is a short-lived one, and so she’s utterly unprepared when she’s cut from the Team USA softball roster. What will she do? How will she identity who she is if she can’t wear a mitt and swing a bat?
Perhaps if any of the film spent time with Lisa on a diamond, if we got to see her passion for the game, we might understand how blinded she was to the inevitable eventualities. But we don’t… except for the short opening gambit of the movie, in which we see little Lisa, maybe four or five years old, whack the shit out of a t-ball, only to draw the ire of a bully boy who shoves her down to the ground in his outrage at being shown up (he was unable to hit the ball). She just stares at him, dumbdounded. She doesn’t cry, she doesn’t yell at him, she doesn’t push back. She just takes the abuse quietly, like a good little girl.

This may be Lisa’s defining characteristic: she lets herself get pushed around by men, and doesn’t seem to mind it — doesn’t even seem to notice it. It sorta explains how the career stuff takes a backseat in the gall department to how timid she is in acquiescing to a “relationship” — if you can call it that — with pro ballplayer Matty (Owen Wilson: Marmaduke, Fantastic Mr. Fox). He treats like her she’s barely human, down to telling her how to feel — she even apologizes to him when she experiences any emotions that contrast with his! — and yet we’re meant to see that it’s a tough choice for her to leave him and throw her lot in with George (Paul Rudd: Dinner for Schmucks, I Love You, Man), a doormat of a milquetoast who’s under federal indictment for securities fraud. (The idea that she could do with some alone time is never even broached, because naturally a woman is nothing without a man at her side all the time. Damn, I might almost have liked this flick is Lisa told both her suitors to take a running leap and walked off by herself into the sunset at the end. Cuz dang if George doesn’t have to explain to her how she feels, too.)

Reese Witherspoon (Monsters vs. Aliens, Four Christmases) , as Lisa, does the best she can with her unforgiving role, and Rudd is as charming as he can be (though Wilson is a trial), but no one could get us honestly past the notion that we’re meant to take all these characters as delightfully oddball when they are quite clearly pathological. And that’s besides the problem of Jack Nicholson (The Bucket List, The Departed), as George’s father and coworker, embarrassingly wheezing his way through the movie, like he’s about to keel over with a coronary; or the problem of Brooks’ (As Good as It Gets) never giving us the sense that he had any of his meandering story under control.

Good stuff? The underappreciated Kathryn Hahn (The Goods: Live Hard, Sell Hard, Step Brothers) as George’s assistant, who, in a single scene with her boyfriend, Al (Lenny Venito: Solitary Man, The Brave One), give us more romance, more authenticity, and more drama than the entire rest of the film. I wish How Do You Know were about her… except she’s already the kind of confident, secure woman who knows the answer.

MPAA: rated PG-13 for sexual content and some strong language

viewed at a private screening with an audience of critics

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  • Jennie Batra

    tired of this feminazi reviewer who considers every film as a political statement. Guess what? Im a conservative lady who thinks women should serve men and should NOT be independent. I do defer to my man and let him Tell me what to do. Because thats what chicks SHOULD do and i wouldnt want it any other way. Guess what? I like having a man and i like getting laid…something u probably never get

  • Danielm80

    Im a conservative lady who thinks women should serve men and should NOT be independent.

    That’s a political statement. Some people who watch the movie will probably agree with it. Many people won’t, and not all of them are “feminazis” (whatever that means). MaryAnn is writing for the portion of the audience that doesn’t think women should be treated like doormats. That’s a fairly mild, fairly commonplace political opinion. If you disagree with it, that neither validates nor invalidates MaryAnn’s review. It just means she’s not the critic for you. The beauty of the Internet is that you can find just about every point of view. I’m sure there are websites for moviegoers who are “surrendered wives” and other sorts of conservatives. This is not one of them.

  • Bluejay

    Hey there, you’re still using personal insults (“feminazi” and “u probably never get [laid]”). You can be that way if you want, but doesn’t it get boring being mean to other people and having them be mean back to you? How about an actual discussion about ideas, not just slamming the other person? For instance, tell us why you think women should be subservient to men. What’s your basis for believing that? (And can you just focus on talking about those ideas without insulting or namecalling the people who disagree?)

    Also, just a tip: People don’t generally upvote their own comments (we can all see your name when we mouse over the “upvote” button). It’s considered kind of uncool, like you feel insecure and have to pump yourself up. Maybe try not to do that in the future?


    I dont care who she is writing for. She is a liberal jerk and i cant stand her nor that stupid portion of the audience. Things were better in The 1940s because we did what men Told us to do. Now, stupid ladies want to be independent, and thats why the divorce rate is 50%. The Bible Says to surrender to your hubby And i dont want it any other way.


    I upvote anything I agree with (including myself) and downvote and flag anything I disagree with. Women should be subservient to men, because men are stronger, more powerful, and i believe in traditional values. Things were better in The 1940s because we did what men Told us to do.
    Now, stupid ladies want to be independent, and thats why the divorce
    rate is 50%. The Bible Says to surrender to your hubby And i dont want
    it any other way. Im not being mean to anyone….just expressing my thoughts…take care

  • Danielm80

    That is an opinion. At least one person here agrees with it, the person who “upvoted” your comment.

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