Fighting with My Family movie review: real fake

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MaryAnn’s quick take…

Genuinely heartwarming, totally cheerworthy, bursting with warm and generous performances, and just a whole damn lotta fun. (And I hate professional wrestling.) Florence Pugh absolutely rocks it.tweet
I’m “biast” (pro): I’m desperate for movies about girls and women…
I’m “biast” (con): …but I had no idea this was gonna be one of those
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women’s participation in this film
male director, male screenwriter, female protagonist
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The posters for Fighting with My Family — with Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson standing there looking grim, next to a gothy teenaged girl — instantly turned me off. I thought: Ugh, a dumb movie about a dad who doesn’t get along with his daughter until everyone learns a touching lesson, very likely somehow via grossout “humor,” and oh look there’s Nick Frost hovering in the background, probably the doofus uncle whom everyone has to tolerate because, you know, fambly. No, thank you.

Except Fighting with My Family is not that movie.

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Whatever the posters for Fighting with My Family make you think the movie is about, you’re wrong.

But wait! If someone had corrected my misapprehensions about this movie by informing me that, no, this is about professional wrestling — as in violent soap operas in the ring, with villains and heroes who body slam one another and throw chairs and rapid-fire insults around… Well, I’d have run away screaming even faster than my misapprehensions were inspiring me to do.

Except Fighting with My Family is that professional-wrestling movie… and it’s absolutely terrific. Genuinely heartwarming, totally cheerworthy, bursting with warm and generous performances, and just a whole damn lotta fun. It even — and I cannot imagine that I would ever have said this — made me understand what audiences and performers alike see in professional wrestling. Yes, it’s fake. Yet it’s also so very real.

Be not fooled in one regard, however: This is not a The Rock movie. Johnson (Rampage, Jumanji: Welcome to the Jungle) appears in only a very few scenes, as himself the WWE wrestling star (and not as the girl’s dad; Johnson is also a producer on the film). He’s terrific, of course, because he’s never less than thoroughly watchable even in a really stupid flick… which, I reiterate, this is not. But don’t go in expecting him to be the star here. He’s not.

Fighting with My Family’s feminism goes way beyond merely centering a girl and her ambitions.
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Instead you get the glorious up-and-coming British actor Florence Pugh (The Commuter) — almost unrecognizable from her stunning feature lead debut in 2016’s Lady Macbeth — absolutely rocking it as Saraya Knight, in a story somewhat loosely based on that of WWE wrestler “Paige.” And you get another incredible up-and-comer, Jack Lowden (Mary Queen of Scots) — who first started to make a big splash with 2017’s Dunkirk — as her brother, Zak. They hail from a family of pro wrestlers on the local circuit in rural Norfolk, England; Lena Headey (Game of Thrones, Pride and Prejudice and Zombies) and Nick Frost (Slaughterhouse Rulez, Tomb Raider) are a hoot as their wrestler parents. Saraya and Zak have always dreamed of making it big with the WWE, and then they get a chance to audition when the organization comes to London…

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This is not a Norman Rockwell sort of family.

Fighting is, as mentioned, based on a real WWE performer’s story, so what happens from there is unspoilable: we already know that Saraya will ace her audition. I won’t reveal whether Zak makes it or not. But this is very much Saraya’s story, and it’s an enormous pleasure to see a girl at the center of what is in many ways a fairly familiar rags-to-riches, overnight-success tale. (There’s also a sly undercurrent of feminism that goes beyond merely centering a girl and her ambitions, and that is even more welcome.) We’ve seen the likes of Fighting before — in the realms of both sports and performing arts — though rarely with this abundance of charm and good humor, thanks to writer-director Stephen Merchant. (This is the British comedian’s second feature, his first with solo credit. He shared writing and directing credit on the 2010 indie dramedy Cemetery Junction.) Fighting even manages to get Vince Vaughn (Unfinished Business, Delivery Man) back into the sort of smart, snarky character role that originally made him so intriguing a screen presence; he plays the WWE coach who definitely does not go easy on Saraya.

So this isn’t all fun and games. The happy stuff is leavened with an enormous dollop of bittersweetness… the sort of dollop that also leaves you with a lump in your throat and a tear in your eye by the end. For Saraya has to learn that talent alone is not enough to make a dream come true, no matter how longed for that dream may be, but that hard work, sacrifice, sticktoitiveness, and teamwork are massively important. And there’s certainly no faking any of that.



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Isabelle May
Isabelle May
Tue, Feb 19, 2019 8:36pm

And just think, MaryAnn – this movie wouldn’t have been possible without Dwayne and Steve being brought together by Tooth Fairy (2010)!
I tease. It reassures me that you’ve given it a good review – so often you can wait for a film to come out and it turns out absolute pants, but thankfully not in this case!

MaryAnn Johanson
reply to  Isabelle May
Wed, Feb 20, 2019 11:01am

I’m sure it would have been possible. :-)

Stacy Livitsanis
Stacy Livitsanis
Thu, Feb 21, 2019 12:50pm

I’d have judged this prematurely based solely on the poster, even though I keep telling others not to do that, because movie marketing is terrible and misleading, making good films look bad. Now I’ll give it a go.

David_Conner
David_Conner
Sat, Feb 23, 2019 3:47pm

I recently saw someone say they hated professional wrestling until they realized wrestlers are really just really buff theater nerds.

I know you’re the same age as me, so I’m guessing you had the same reaction I did in brief exposures to pro wrestling in the ’80s. To me it just looked like a bunch of large shouty men being large and shouty to each other.

But I recently became a fan, largely due to the show Lucha Underground, which some have described as less a wrestling promotion than a telenovela about a crazy supernatural wrestling promotion.

Still lots of wrestling in it, but I found myself appreciating the combination of athleticism, storytelling, acting, and magic. (Seriously, it struck me how similar wrestling is to something Penn Jillette said about Penn and Teller’s magic – it’s all about taking something that’s extremely safe and making it look extremely dangerous.)

Heading out to see this movie now….

David_Conner
David_Conner
Sun, Feb 24, 2019 5:16pm

Loved the movie. The entire cast is great. I could watch an entire movie or TV series that was just about Nick Frost and Lena Headey’s characters.

Danielm80
Danielm80
Tue, Mar 05, 2019 6:26pm

I am not a wrestling fan, and I liked the movie so much I had to see Lady Macbeth the very next day. I’m even considering going to see Mary Queen of Scots for Jack Lowden.

Whatever flaws he may have as a writer or director, Steven Merchant got very impressive performances out of this cast–even Leda Headey, who tends to annoy me–though I probably won’t be seeking out the Rock’s films. But based on his filmography, I’ve apparently already seen most of Nick Frost’s films without even realizing it.